Dress Code for Weddings

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Barry Hunter
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My eldest daughter attended a wedding recently in the Lake District, the couple chose to have a professional :confused: wedding video. The lady who covered the wedding was dressed in jeans & bright red fleece. Apparantly she stuck out like a sore thumb being dressed like that.

Whenever I or my wife cover a wedding we think it important to dress smartly. I know some will say that what counts is the quality of the footage & subsequent editing but we feel it is only right to try & blend in.

Anyone else have any thoughts on this?

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encore
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Hi Barry

Certainly don't agree with wearing jeans on the day for a professional video company. I wear a smart pair of trousers cleaned polished shoes and a descent shirt (no tie). I don't personally overdress for the occassion i.e. suit cause it would make me sweat like a pig and I tend to find a tie gets in my way, but I certainly would not wear jeans.

David James
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mooblie
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What is called a "lounge suit and tie" for me (male) and a trouser suite for my (female) partner - when we do a two-camera shoot.

That way we blend in with both full-blown morning-suited men and "ordinary" smartly dressed guests.

Martin - DVdoctor in moderation. Everyone is entitled to my opinion.

red
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Collar and tie is the absolute minimum, wing collar and dickie bow if required, you name it, I'll dress to suit the wedding.

Fergie
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Jacket, collar and tie, but not a suit. My wife will wear either a skirt or trousers with a top. We are always smartly dressed with the aim of blending in with the guests. This is often in complete contrast to some of the scruffy photographers who often turn out looking like they are wearing the same clothes they slept in.

               
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BrianReed
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I'm a bit of a traditionalist. Black (washable) M&S suit, short sleeved shirt and black patterned tie. Jacket stays on for arrivals, ceremony and photo-shoot. Have also worn DJ/bow tie to fit in with dress code for the day. The bottom line is that the video crew should blend in with the guests - not stand out like a sore thumb. Standards are very important IMHO.

By contrast, some stills photographers are comparatively scruffy, although most dress tidely (usually wearing a jacket), and a few I've worked with even wear morning suits.

Brian Reed
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Z Cheema
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I used to wear a suit, but forever wore out the shoulders were the camera rested and the pockets full of spares. I also sweated a lot an was very uncomfortable.
Now I just wear smart trousers, shirt, tie (mister man) and now a sort of black fishing vest (like the police wear) this holds all the spares I need where ever i am and being black blends in.

branny
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We too are traditionalists, and feel that a smart suit and tie will blend in, and allow us to get the relaxed shots we need at all weddngs.
Guests have told us, they have been to weddings and the 'video crew' looked like pseudo CNN, flak jackets n all, and weren't very comfortable with the combat look.
:cool:

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johnxl1s
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logic: a suit.

DAVE M
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I tend to do events, not weddings and sometimes there's more kit to be shifted. You need something more practical

I wear and get the blokes who work with me to wear,black jeans or cargos which look almost like "proper" trousers, and black poloshirts.
there again, we're not mixing with the Moss Bros lot.

Mahesh
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Originally posted by Barry Hunter:
[QBWhenever I or my wife cover a wedding we think it important to dress smartly. Barry Hunter
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Same here Barry. Smart but sober suit for weddings, smart clothes for birthdays and black clothing (black trouser/jeans and black shirt/Tshirt) for stage shows.

Regards Mahesh crestvideo.co.uk

Barry Hunter
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When we cover events other than weddings, i.e. shows, at clients premises for a promo etc, we both have black polo shirts or turtle neck pullovers with our logo embrodered on. In colder weather we also have fleeces with the logo! Worn with black trousers/jeans it looks good and we have a local embroidery firm that is very inexpensive.

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branny
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For covert camera coverage at pantomimes - we have the head and leggings in the pantomime horse.
Only joking guys, I couldn't resist.

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busbyvideo
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Usually wear suit, to fit in with the guests.
On warmer days, smart trousers and waistcoat. Always with white shirt and tie.

First impressions! etc.

Mike

Fergie
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I found that one of the best compliments was being told by the bride and groom and/or parents, that they didn't really notice us, and for most of the time, they forgot we were there.

               
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Z Cheema
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Originally posted by R. Ferguson:
I found that one of the best compliments was being told by the bride and groom and/or parents, that they didn't really notice us, and for most of the time, they forgot we were there.

Including when it was time to eat... :-(

mooblie
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How true. How sad.

I hate it even more when they say "Oh! That's alright - you just dig in when the buffet comes along this evening!"

Thinks: "Hmmm.... what do we eat between the 11am start and the 9pm buffet?"

Martin - DVdoctor in moderation. Everyone is entitled to my opinion.

Barry Hunter
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I`m glad that this doesn`t just happen to us! although I equally sorry it happens to others.

The last 2 weddings I have been fed, 1st was the full works with the guests & last week the brides father found me in the bar, asked if I`d been fed, to which I said, "No" so he stormed off, found the maitre de & said, "I want the best possible results on my daughters wedding video! How can the cameraman do that if he`s hungry" A very nice platefull was there within minutes.

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branny
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I hate to sound smug, but, If you put the 'refreshments for camera crew' in your contract it's always ready and waiting when the Bride & Groom sit down for theirs.

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Z Cheema
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Go on sound smug Branny :), it is on my contract, but last week (1st May) when I just checked nothing had been arranged, this after leaving at 11:30am till 1:30pm, the buffet got a killing though. the last one was at one of the tables and well looked after.

Most clients are very obliging and it is just good manners I think, just a shame it has to be on the contract.

Definitely coming back in my next life as that man in the red jacket at weddings. Start at reception, my own table,I get to shout a lot and get home before the fist dance.

robo
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"Definitely coming back in my next life as that man in the red jacket at weddings. Start at reception, my own table,I get to shout a lot and get home before the fist dance."

coming back as a photographer then are we Z?

robo

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When I speak to the couple a week before the wedding I try to remember to ask for "Tea and Sandwiches" for the cameraman during the meal, Usually they say no problem, but sometimes still forget on the day.

The thing i hate, is when you starve between 12am and 9pm, then the brides father comes up and says "did you get something to eat?"

Professionalism prevents me from saying "Well, did you arrange something for me to eat".

Naturally the answer would be no.

I feel its common courtesy to supply something to eat. I do it all the time for workmen in my own home. Its the right thing to do, and hopefully ensures a good job done.

Mike

baz1
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I find the couples are generally ok it is some of the
Hotels that ignore you when they have been paid by the couple TO feed you or supply sandwiches for a small
Child that taste like they were made the day before
What about a Black list of the worst and best hotels!! Barry TOP HAT VIDEO

sc
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i usually wear black or grey slacks, white or blue button down shirt, black pullover sweater if it's cold, and black nurses shoes. i find it very difficult to be versatile in a skirt/dress and pumps or other dress shoes.

as for food, i recently wrote it into my contract that they need to feed me at meal times along with the rest of the guests and hosts. i mention it again during the pre-wedding consultation, as well as double check where they intend to seat me during meal time. no problems so far. keeping fingers crossed.

busbyvideo
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You're right Barry.

Hotels are never forthcoming. I understand that the Wedding Guests must be looked after first, but sometimes your meal is put out just as you are about to start filming the speeches.

Functions in halls are usually better as outside caterers are more likely to feed you.

It is a sticky point. If i am near a McDonalds i can nip out for a bit to eat, but sometimes you are in the middle of nowhere.

Mike

baz1
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The trouble with nipping out to Mc Donald’s
Is what to do with the Kit not to mention the calories!!!

SIFI
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We never ask for food.

My attitude is that they arepaying a small fortune for us to be there and I do not wish to add to that by asking for £70 plus worth of extra food.

We always go to the venue restauant and have a meal there in peace, away from the guests. The last thing I want is to be sitting with aunty Elsie with nothing to say for 90 minutes.

When they do offer to feed us (about 40%) we ask to sit out in the bar with a main course only.

SImon

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encore
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SIFI We never ask for food.

My attitude is that they arepaying a small fortune for us to be there and I do not wish to add to that by asking for £70 plus worth of extra food

I agree we never ask for food to be supplied we always supply our own. Besides that most of the time I never even think about eating cause I get myself so worked up before a wedding my appetite is gone.

The only time I really eat on most weddings is in the evening.

David James
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baz1
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If I had someone work for me for a whole day
Even builders I would feed them as for getting
Food from the hotel they are very busy with
The guests and don’t have the time. I also find
That non English weddings i.e. Indian always
Feed you and you don’t have to ask. I myself
Work much better with a full stomach

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My Main concern with nipping out for food is that they may start tbe speeches without you.

This happened to me once before. I asked all the usual questions to the Toastmaster, speeches befor or after the meal, "after" he said.

I then returned 30 mts later to find that they had the speeches before the meal. Can't beleve they paid for a video, then did'nt realise i was not there.

I have to eat as some point between 12am and 9pm, otherwise i get a splitting headache, peering through a viewfinder all day.

As i said, its nice if the couple will arrange something for you. The hotel are not interested, or want to charge for the meal.

RoboTeacher

steelej
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How did the couple react to you missing the speeches, that couldn't have been nice

John.

SIFI
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Many of you are saying that if the bride and groom don't feed you, that you starve until the buffet at 9.30. Why???

Go to the hotel restaurant and get a bar meal for £10 each. You won't miss a single thing if you go when they are about to start their meal. Their meal will take 90 minutes minimum and you'll be back in plenty of time for the speeches.

I always ask the B&G the running order of the day. That way if I miss something crucial I can blame them. I always know exactly when the speeches are etc.

The only thing I ever missed was the cutting of the cake once. The venue decided to shift it to the middle of the meal between main and desert. That was completely different to the instructions left with me. The bride was upset it wasn't on the video, but she fully understood that it was the venues fault and not mine. I restaged it in the disco and all was well.

If I were getting married again I would feed the videographer, but I didn't even think of it at my wedding. Ipersonally think feeding you is too much to ask.

Simon

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I've started writing it into my contract now, that if we are filming the evening reception refreshments should be provided.

Once, the hotel said they were too busy to provide us with food, so I diplomatically told the bride and groom that we were going to find somewhere to eat and not to start the speeches until we came back. They understood and waited for us !

We travel long distances to film weddings and like several of you, I also get "worked up" and lose my apetite and live on adrenalin but once the service is out of the way and there's only the speeches, my stomach seems to know this and suddenly sends messages to my brain demaning nourishment!

We've been asked a couple of times to sit with the guests when people haven't turned up and the B & G still have to pay for the empty places, so we might as well help them out.
Peter

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Z Cheema
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"Go to the hotel restaurant and get a bar meal for £10 each. You won't miss a single thing if you go when they are about to start their meal"

Tried that, but normally they are so busy with the wedding it turns up late and here are some places you cannot order food. I have seen them feed bands and the the man in the red coat (part timers) and you stand around like a lemon. I am always popping in and out to see how things are going I never trust anyone with instructions they tend to forget.

Z Cheema
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sorry for changing the topic by the way.....

roglowe
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How do you guys make a video in all that clobber?

I wear black , trouser like jeans with black trainers and a polo shirt. I am there to make a video production and not to blend in. My shirts are also sign written so people know who I am. I must stick out like a swore thumb but hey, I suppose my camera does most of that for me.

I have tried the trouser shoe type but when I need to run with my gear or get on my knees in the grass for an certain shot or climb and jump over walls I need clothing I am comfortable in and clothing that also has many pockets for easy access to filters, batteries, tapes etc.

I cant imagine making a wedding video in trousers and shoes!! How uncomfortable.

Roger Lowe

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Z Cheema
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you scruffy young person, you back already

As i say above a black vest for my bits and black trousers actually jeans shoes that take ages to find, ones that are comfortable non slip on those wooden dance floors and waterproof for the grass.
I do not like shirt and tie but out of respect for the client i wear one, usually a loose shirt and collar.

Alan McCormick
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Roger,
Hope you had a nice holiday :cool:

I have always worn a suit up till now however as you say it is a pain when you need to crawl round to get those cool shots.

Last Saturday I was covered in mud as we had a downpour for 24 hours beforehand.

I wear the black outfit for corporates (thanks for the heads up "Z").

Alan

Z Cheema
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Well it's Saturday and time to film another wedding, lets hope the sun stays out and it goes without a hitch and we are not with bridezilla today.

Perhaps we should have our own prayer., Our camera which art in.... you know the rest.

Casuals for me today.
Checked traffic, checked weather, checked gear

Rest of Today: (south East)
Dry, but rather cloudy at times, the best of the sunshine late afternoon onwards. Warm. Maximum temperature 22 deg C (72 deg F).

Barry Hunter
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Torquay, fabulous weather, great couple, no real hitches! dined on a packet of peanuts & pint of lager!

Ah well, got fed the last 2 saturdays :)

Barry Hunter
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Bonus! the boss has just finished editing 1st May wedding.

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roglowe
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Just finished a 9am start - 8.30pm last dance.
Lovely day, Most were Italian that couldnt speak English. Great fun when Interviewing the guests.

I am now Shattered!! and about to tuck into a chinese meal. And got fed today. Bonus!

Hic-cups of the day......

The camera wanted the heads cleaned just before the Bride walked down the isle. I had to change tapes very quickly. Luckily I always have a new spare in my pocket.

Oh, and a quite word with the photographer for walking in front of my camera. His argument "You can edit, I can't!!"

Roger Lowe

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Z Cheema
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Just packed all the gear away and put my aching feet up with a cup of tea.
Great weather to bright really needed more cloud cover to help those harsh shadows. Twiddle Dee and twiddle dim the photographers, so unprofessional and always getting in the way, why 2 photographer's taking the same shots and only one camera guy is anyones guess. walking in front of me without a by or your leave, using flash during the service.
knocked me during the service and jogged the shot. grrrr

glad I had my utility vest, having water Handy all day keeps the headaches aways, also saved the bride as she was de-hydrating. Got feed hooray, dance floor empty as the Irish band played, good last bit, shoot 3 hours of footage.

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We have 2 different styles of smart/casual uniforms that we wear to weddings.

The first is for during the colder months and consists of black polished shoes, black casual trousers & black open collar long sleeved shirt.

During the warmer months, we wear brown polished shoes, cream chino slacks & short sleeved blue shirt.

All of our shirts have our company name on them in silver, across the left side of the chest.

We used to wear a suit to weddings, and although these look very smart, they tend to be anything but practical. They make you sweat, and can restrict your movement.

Same As It Ever Was! :(